An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open,and after you marry, close one eye. "Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren’t really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their Flaws,
vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.
If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you’ve got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individuals who have decided to share a life together.
Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best of each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? what do you bring to the relationship???
How full is your "Love Tank"?
Saturday, December 13, 2008
Friday, June 13, 2008
A Black Columnist on Obama
Ken Blackwell - Columnist for the New York Sun
>
>
> It's an amazing time to be alive in America . We're in a year of
> firsts in this presidential election: the first viable woman
> candidate; the first viable African-American candidate; and, a
> candidate who is the first front-running freedom fighter over 70. The
> next president of America will be a first.
>
>
> We won't truly be in an election of firsts, however, until we judge
> every candidate by where they stand. We won't arrive where we should
> be until we no longer talk about skin color or gender. Now that Barack
> Obama steps to the front of the Democratic field, we need to stop
> talking about his race, and start talking about his policies and his
> politics.
>
>
> The reality is this: Though the Democrats will not have a nominee
> until August, unless Hillary Clinton drops out, Mr. Obama is now the
> frontrunner, and its time America takes a closer and deeper look at
> him. Some pundits are calling him the next John F. Kennedy. He's not.
> He's the next George McGovern. And it's time people learned the facts.
>
>
> Because the truth is that Mr. Obama is the single most liberal senator
> in the entire U.S. Senate. He is more liberal than Ted Kennedy, Bernie
> Sanders, or Mrs. Clinton. Never in my life have I seen a presidential
> frontrunner whose rhetoric is so far removed from his record. Walter
> Mondale promised to raise our taxes, and he lost. George McGovern
> promised military weakness, and he lost. Michael Dukakis promised a
> liberal domestic agenda, and he lost. Yet Mr. Obama is promising all
> those things, and he's not behind in the polls. Why? Because the press
> has dealt with him as if he were in a beauty pageant.. Mr. Obama
> talks about getting past party, getting past red and blue, to lead the
> United States of America . But let's look at the more defined strokes
> of who he is underneath this superficial "beauty."
>
>
> Start with national security, since the president's most important
> duties are as commander-in-chief. Over the summer, Mr. Obama talked
> about invading Pakistan, a nation armed with nuclear weapons; meeting
> without preconditions with Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, who vows to destroy
> Israel and create another Holocaust; and Kim Jong II, who is murdering
> and starving his people, but emphasized that the nuclear option was
> off the table against terrorists - something no president has ever
> taken off the table since we created nuclear weapons in the 1940s.
> Even Democrats who have worked in national security condemned all of
> those remarks. Mr. Obama is a foreign-policy novice who would put our
> national security at risk.
>
>
> Next, consider economic policy. For all its faults, our health care
> system is the strongest in the world. And free trade agreements,
> created by Bill Clinton as well as President Bush, have made more
> goods more affordable so that even people of modest means can live a
> life that no one imagined a generation ago. Yet Mr. Obama promises to
> raise taxes on "the rich." How to fix Social Security? Raise taxes.
> How to fix Medicare? Raise taxes. Prescription drugs? Raise taxes.
> Free college? Raise taxes. Socialize medicine? Raise taxes. His
> solution to everything is to have government take it over. Big Brother
> on steroids, funded by your paycheck..
>
>
> Finally, look at the social issues. Mr. Obama had the audacity to open
> a stadium rally by saying, "All praise and glory to God!" but says
> that Christian leaders speaking for life and marriage have "hijacked"
> - hijacked - Christianity. He is pro-partial birth abortion, and
> promises to appoint Supreme Court justices who will rule any
> restriction on it unconstitutional. He espouses the abortion views of
> Margaret Sanger, one of the early advocates of racial cleansing. His
> spiritual leaders endorse homosexual marriage, and he is moving in
> that direction. In Illinois , he refused to vote against a statewide
> ban - ban - on all handguns in the state. These are radical left,
> Hollywood , and San Francis co values, not Middle America values.
>
>
> The real Mr. Obama is an easy target for the general election. Mrs.
> Clinton is a far tougher opponent. But Mr. Obama could win if people
> don't start looking behind his veneer and flowery speeches. His vision
> of "bringing America together" means saying that those who disagree
> with his agenda for America are hijackers or warmongers. Uniting the
> country means adopting his liberal agenda and abandoning any conflicting
> beliefs.
>
>
> But right now everyone is talking about how eloquent of a speaker he
> is and - yes - they're talking about his race. Those should never be
> the factors on which we base our choice for president. Mr. Obama's
> radical agenda sets him far outside the American mainstream, to the
> left of Mrs. Clinton.
>
>
> It's time to talk about the real Barack Obama. In an election of
> firsts, let's first make sure we elect the person who is qualified to
> be our president in a nuclear age during a global civilizational war.
>
> Subject: Kind of scary, wouldn't you think Remember--"God is good, and
> is in time, on time,every time."
>
>
> According to The Book of Revelations the anti-christ is:
>
>
> The anti-christ will be a man, in his 40s, of MUSLIM descent, who will
> deceive the nations with persuasive language, and have a MASSIVE
> Christ-like appeal....the prophecy says that people will flock to him
> and he will promise false hope and world peace, and when he is in power,
> will destroy everything. Is this anti-christ,.......... OBAMA??
>
>
>
>
> It's an amazing time to be alive in America . We're in a year of
> firsts in this presidential election: the first viable woman
> candidate; the first viable African-American candidate; and, a
> candidate who is the first front-running freedom fighter over 70. The
> next president of America will be a first.
>
>
> We won't truly be in an election of firsts, however, until we judge
> every candidate by where they stand. We won't arrive where we should
> be until we no longer talk about skin color or gender. Now that Barack
> Obama steps to the front of the Democratic field, we need to stop
> talking about his race, and start talking about his policies and his
> politics.
>
>
> The reality is this: Though the Democrats will not have a nominee
> until August, unless Hillary Clinton drops out, Mr. Obama is now the
> frontrunner, and its time America takes a closer and deeper look at
> him. Some pundits are calling him the next John F. Kennedy. He's not.
> He's the next George McGovern. And it's time people learned the facts.
>
>
> Because the truth is that Mr. Obama is the single most liberal senator
> in the entire U.S. Senate. He is more liberal than Ted Kennedy, Bernie
> Sanders, or Mrs. Clinton. Never in my life have I seen a presidential
> frontrunner whose rhetoric is so far removed from his record. Walter
> Mondale promised to raise our taxes, and he lost. George McGovern
> promised military weakness, and he lost. Michael Dukakis promised a
> liberal domestic agenda, and he lost. Yet Mr. Obama is promising all
> those things, and he's not behind in the polls. Why? Because the press
> has dealt with him as if he were in a beauty pageant.. Mr. Obama
> talks about getting past party, getting past red and blue, to lead the
> United States of America . But let's look at the more defined strokes
> of who he is underneath this superficial "beauty."
>
>
> Start with national security, since the president's most important
> duties are as commander-in-chief. Over the summer, Mr. Obama talked
> about invading Pakistan, a nation armed with nuclear weapons; meeting
> without preconditions with Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, who vows to destroy
> Israel and create another Holocaust; and Kim Jong II, who is murdering
> and starving his people, but emphasized that the nuclear option was
> off the table against terrorists - something no president has ever
> taken off the table since we created nuclear weapons in the 1940s.
> Even Democrats who have worked in national security condemned all of
> those remarks. Mr. Obama is a foreign-policy novice who would put our
> national security at risk.
>
>
> Next, consider economic policy. For all its faults, our health care
> system is the strongest in the world. And free trade agreements,
> created by Bill Clinton as well as President Bush, have made more
> goods more affordable so that even people of modest means can live a
> life that no one imagined a generation ago. Yet Mr. Obama promises to
> raise taxes on "the rich." How to fix Social Security? Raise taxes.
> How to fix Medicare? Raise taxes. Prescription drugs? Raise taxes.
> Free college? Raise taxes. Socialize medicine? Raise taxes. His
> solution to everything is to have government take it over. Big Brother
> on steroids, funded by your paycheck..
>
>
> Finally, look at the social issues. Mr. Obama had the audacity to open
> a stadium rally by saying, "All praise and glory to God!" but says
> that Christian leaders speaking for life and marriage have "hijacked"
> - hijacked - Christianity. He is pro-partial birth abortion, and
> promises to appoint Supreme Court justices who will rule any
> restriction on it unconstitutional. He espouses the abortion views of
> Margaret Sanger, one of the early advocates of racial cleansing. His
> spiritual leaders endorse homosexual marriage, and he is moving in
> that direction. In Illinois , he refused to vote against a statewide
> ban - ban - on all handguns in the state. These are radical left,
> Hollywood , and San Francis co values, not Middle America values.
>
>
> The real Mr. Obama is an easy target for the general election. Mrs.
> Clinton is a far tougher opponent. But Mr. Obama could win if people
> don't start looking behind his veneer and flowery speeches. His vision
> of "bringing America together" means saying that those who disagree
> with his agenda for America are hijackers or warmongers. Uniting the
> country means adopting his liberal agenda and abandoning any conflicting
> beliefs.
>
>
> But right now everyone is talking about how eloquent of a speaker he
> is and - yes - they're talking about his race. Those should never be
> the factors on which we base our choice for president. Mr. Obama's
> radical agenda sets him far outside the American mainstream, to the
> left of Mrs. Clinton.
>
>
> It's time to talk about the real Barack Obama. In an election of
> firsts, let's first make sure we elect the person who is qualified to
> be our president in a nuclear age during a global civilizational war.
>
> Subject: Kind of scary, wouldn't you think Remember--"God is good, and
> is in time, on time,every time."
>
>
> According to The Book of Revelations the anti-christ is:
>
>
> The anti-christ will be a man, in his 40s, of MUSLIM descent, who will
> deceive the nations with persuasive language, and have a MASSIVE
> Christ-like appeal....the prophecy says that people will flock to him
> and he will promise false hope and world peace, and when he is in power,
> will destroy everything. Is this anti-christ,.......... OBAMA??
>
>
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Obama!!!!
Barack Obama!!!!
I am ecstatic to see Barack Obama secure the democratic nomination; I am overjoyed to witness such a historic event!!! However, I can’t handle the fact that when I went to CNN this morning The Top story was Hillary is lobbying for VP… There is something seriously wrong with this woman!!! How could she impede on history like this!!!! This is a very unpatriotic act. Barack Obama is making history and she is having a fit!!! There is a famous quote that says through adversity you find a person’s true character, and she has shown hers. Now I will be fair, I have never been a fan of Hillary’s, but I did admire her fight and tenacity. But, this whining mess is too much. Why is everyone saying that she is a better candidate??? She lost. how is she a better candidate???? Why will she not quiet??? Is she too prideful to concede!!!!Why is she saying that she wants to unite the party and is doing to completely opposite? WHY???
Barack has truly made me proud. If we ask our parents if they would have thought this would have happened in there life time they all would say NO!! But, that shows how amazing our God is!!! Barack Obama is now a household name and just 14 months ago, I had no clue who this man was. And now he is the Democratic Nominee. I just want to challenge all of my friends to take a deep look at Obama and challenge yourself to reach for the sky, because he is living proof that we can accomplish anything that we aspire to do no matter what color we are, who are parents are, or what your name is. In the words of Michelle Obama today “for the first time in my life I am truly proud to be an American”!!!!!
I am ecstatic to see Barack Obama secure the democratic nomination; I am overjoyed to witness such a historic event!!! However, I can’t handle the fact that when I went to CNN this morning The Top story was Hillary is lobbying for VP… There is something seriously wrong with this woman!!! How could she impede on history like this!!!! This is a very unpatriotic act. Barack Obama is making history and she is having a fit!!! There is a famous quote that says through adversity you find a person’s true character, and she has shown hers. Now I will be fair, I have never been a fan of Hillary’s, but I did admire her fight and tenacity. But, this whining mess is too much. Why is everyone saying that she is a better candidate??? She lost. how is she a better candidate???? Why will she not quiet??? Is she too prideful to concede!!!!Why is she saying that she wants to unite the party and is doing to completely opposite? WHY???
Barack has truly made me proud. If we ask our parents if they would have thought this would have happened in there life time they all would say NO!! But, that shows how amazing our God is!!! Barack Obama is now a household name and just 14 months ago, I had no clue who this man was. And now he is the Democratic Nominee. I just want to challenge all of my friends to take a deep look at Obama and challenge yourself to reach for the sky, because he is living proof that we can accomplish anything that we aspire to do no matter what color we are, who are parents are, or what your name is. In the words of Michelle Obama today “for the first time in my life I am truly proud to be an American”!!!!!
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Untimely/Premature Death????
Every Mother’s Day my family and I go the cemetery to visit my Grandmother. She passed when I was 14 yrs old. This is something that my mother likes to do with my little brother and me and her sister every year. It gives her a since of peace to have all of us together. This Sunday I found myself wondering through the cemetery looking at headstones and I ran across Master Justin Antinio Miller Birth September 28, 1988 Died September 30, 1988 and then DeCresha NeSha Robinson Born December 8, 1980 Died October 8,1989. This triggered a question that I have been battling since My friend Keith passed in 2006.
I truly had a very hard time dealing with Keith’s death and while talking to different spiritual leaders I became more confused. I was told, “God promised us 70 to 120 years” and they used Psalms 90:10 and Genesis 6 to back it up. Then I asked, “So, are you tell me that Keith’s death was premature?”. Then they started to question his life style and his commitment to Christ and so forth. I never was given a straight answer.
I have had this conversation with several people and I have gotten several different answers. Yesterday while talking to good friend of mine he told me a story about an eight year old boy playing in the street who was hit by a stray bullet. The shooting was gang related and as result of the boy being shot the gang members turned there lives over to Christ. When I told this story to the spiritual leader he said that satan stole this boys life away and he used John 10:10 to back it up. “The thief does not come except to steal and to kill and destroy”. Even though the child saved all of the lives of the Gang members he feels that the child’s life was stolen. I have a problem with this!!!!
We all were put on this earth for a purpose and that is to lead others to Christ. It is obvious that this child’s life was taken so that he can fulfill his purpose. So to say that his death was untimely is just absurd. God doesn’t make any mistakes. When you look Job, Satan had to ask God’s permission to do anything to Job and that is the same with us.
I just can’t believe that there is any such thing as a premature or untimely death. Let me know your thoughts?????
I truly had a very hard time dealing with Keith’s death and while talking to different spiritual leaders I became more confused. I was told, “God promised us 70 to 120 years” and they used Psalms 90:10 and Genesis 6 to back it up. Then I asked, “So, are you tell me that Keith’s death was premature?”. Then they started to question his life style and his commitment to Christ and so forth. I never was given a straight answer.
I have had this conversation with several people and I have gotten several different answers. Yesterday while talking to good friend of mine he told me a story about an eight year old boy playing in the street who was hit by a stray bullet. The shooting was gang related and as result of the boy being shot the gang members turned there lives over to Christ. When I told this story to the spiritual leader he said that satan stole this boys life away and he used John 10:10 to back it up. “The thief does not come except to steal and to kill and destroy”. Even though the child saved all of the lives of the Gang members he feels that the child’s life was stolen. I have a problem with this!!!!
We all were put on this earth for a purpose and that is to lead others to Christ. It is obvious that this child’s life was taken so that he can fulfill his purpose. So to say that his death was untimely is just absurd. God doesn’t make any mistakes. When you look Job, Satan had to ask God’s permission to do anything to Job and that is the same with us.
I just can’t believe that there is any such thing as a premature or untimely death. Let me know your thoughts?????
Friday, May 9, 2008
Guard Your Heart!!!
Proverbs 4:23 Tell us to “Above all else, Guard your Heart, for it is your wellspring of life”. In reading this I thought, “This is so true.” If I never experienced bad relationships I wouldn’t be so bitter. Lol JK. Hey… if you can’t poke fun at yourself, you are a sad person. But seriously, think about it, how many of you are harboring insecurities from previous relationships??? Maybe your mom told you that you weren’t smart enough to be a doctor so you decided against going to medical school or maybe an ex lover told you that you were fat so you don’t wear certain clothes. It is amazing to me what people can say to make us change our self images. I know a lot of you are saying sounds like someone has low self esteem, but low self esteem starts somewhere. People just aren’t born with low self esteem; it is developed over one’s life. Me, personally, I was in relationship with a man that mentally abused me. I knew that I deserved better, I was just so detached from God that I didn’t have the strength to leave. I really felt like I needed him. I did everything I could to make him want me!!! I mean everything, I completely devalued myself…So sad, but true!!!!
Why didn’t I guard my Heart?? Why didn’t I take God at is word and realize that I was perfectly made in the likeness of him???? The same reason that you don’t…I didn’t want to be alone. I wanted to be loved, and I had too much pride to let it go!!! However, not wanting to be alone and wanting to be loved made me compromise myself and left my heart unprotected. When your heart isn’t guarded you subject yourself to all types of heartache!!! Jesus died so that we can have life more abundantly. This means that He died so that we can be happy!!! I had to realize that being happy was my choice!!! I had to guard my heart; but, most of all trust and believe God that there is a perfect man out there for me!!! So, I left. Now don’t get me wrong since then life hasn’t been all roses. But it s has been so much easier because I know that I have a man that loves me no matter what!!!!
P.S. This relationship strengthened my relationship with God and truly made me a better person!!! So I thank my ex for what he took me through because without him I wouldn't be the Jewel that I am today!!!!
Be blessed
Why didn’t I guard my Heart?? Why didn’t I take God at is word and realize that I was perfectly made in the likeness of him???? The same reason that you don’t…I didn’t want to be alone. I wanted to be loved, and I had too much pride to let it go!!! However, not wanting to be alone and wanting to be loved made me compromise myself and left my heart unprotected. When your heart isn’t guarded you subject yourself to all types of heartache!!! Jesus died so that we can have life more abundantly. This means that He died so that we can be happy!!! I had to realize that being happy was my choice!!! I had to guard my heart; but, most of all trust and believe God that there is a perfect man out there for me!!! So, I left. Now don’t get me wrong since then life hasn’t been all roses. But it s has been so much easier because I know that I have a man that loves me no matter what!!!!
P.S. This relationship strengthened my relationship with God and truly made me a better person!!! So I thank my ex for what he took me through because without him I wouldn't be the Jewel that I am today!!!!
Be blessed
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
I AM OUTTA HERE!!!!
When you are down and out, lift up your head and shout, "I'm outta here".
Most of you all know that I meditate every morning, mostly on Biblical scriptures, but this morning I pulled out my good old Acts of Faith for People of Color. It is a cute little book of quotes in which I find to be humorous as well as insightful. This morning meditation was "When you are down and out lift up you head and shout "I'm outta here", and that is exactly what I did!!! I am so over not being where I want to be in life.
Yes, I have a good job and make more money than the average 26 year old. Yes, I have a home and a nice car but, it seems that I am still not satisfied. Content, but not satisfied. One could argue that I am blessed and I should thank The Almighty for my blessings. In which I do. Don't get it twisted I know where my help comes from!!! I also know that everything that I have was given to me by God and can easily be taken away. However, that still doesn't change the fact that I am 26, not married, and not really into anyone or anything!!!! I just found out the day before yesterday that one of my ex-boyfriends had a new girlfriend. Initially I was pissed and then I thought about it. I asked myself " Chasiti why are you upset??? You don't like him for real... you just don't want him to be with someone else because you're not with anyone!!!!" That goes with all of my ex's. So today is the day that I have had enough of this mess!!!! " I AM SO OUTTA HERE!" This means I have come to a point in my life where I will no longer feel sorry for myself due to the fact that I am not married!!!
There is more important things going on in this world!!! Our troops are dying in Iraq. We have yet to bridge the economic/ academic gap between African Americans and Whites. Gas is $4 a gallon and I could go on and on!!!!! There comes a point when we all have to be sick and tired of being sick and tired, and I am there!!! So, I am challenging you to do the same. It is time to move instantly!!! "I am outta here!" is an affirmation, a statement of truth. It gives you power to no longer be tied with whatever physical or emotional attribute that is holding you back from finding and completing your divine purpose. Commit yourself to loose weight, go back to school get a law degree or to just be a better person. Leave that person alone that means you no good!!! Whatever it is that is holding you back tell it or them "I am outta here"!!! And remember you can do all things through Christ who gives you Strength!!!!!
Most of you all know that I meditate every morning, mostly on Biblical scriptures, but this morning I pulled out my good old Acts of Faith for People of Color. It is a cute little book of quotes in which I find to be humorous as well as insightful. This morning meditation was "When you are down and out lift up you head and shout "I'm outta here", and that is exactly what I did!!! I am so over not being where I want to be in life.
Yes, I have a good job and make more money than the average 26 year old. Yes, I have a home and a nice car but, it seems that I am still not satisfied. Content, but not satisfied. One could argue that I am blessed and I should thank The Almighty for my blessings. In which I do. Don't get it twisted I know where my help comes from!!! I also know that everything that I have was given to me by God and can easily be taken away. However, that still doesn't change the fact that I am 26, not married, and not really into anyone or anything!!!! I just found out the day before yesterday that one of my ex-boyfriends had a new girlfriend. Initially I was pissed and then I thought about it. I asked myself " Chasiti why are you upset??? You don't like him for real... you just don't want him to be with someone else because you're not with anyone!!!!" That goes with all of my ex's. So today is the day that I have had enough of this mess!!!! " I AM SO OUTTA HERE!" This means I have come to a point in my life where I will no longer feel sorry for myself due to the fact that I am not married!!!
There is more important things going on in this world!!! Our troops are dying in Iraq. We have yet to bridge the economic/ academic gap between African Americans and Whites. Gas is $4 a gallon and I could go on and on!!!!! There comes a point when we all have to be sick and tired of being sick and tired, and I am there!!! So, I am challenging you to do the same. It is time to move instantly!!! "I am outta here!" is an affirmation, a statement of truth. It gives you power to no longer be tied with whatever physical or emotional attribute that is holding you back from finding and completing your divine purpose. Commit yourself to loose weight, go back to school get a law degree or to just be a better person. Leave that person alone that means you no good!!! Whatever it is that is holding you back tell it or them "I am outta here"!!! And remember you can do all things through Christ who gives you Strength!!!!!
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