Love is a choice!
One of the biggest misconception in relationships is that they should be 50/50…Uhh…NO! They should be 100/100. Think about if you are only giving 50% effort in your relationship something is lacking. And your mate is unfulfilled. Now I will be the first to say that no one is perfect… not even I! we all can stand to improve on something.
When in a relationship you should ask yourself 3 question:
Do you love each other?
Are you committed to each other?
Are you will to put in the time and energy to strengthen the love and commitment?
If you answer no to any of these questions, you shouldn't’ waste the other parties time. Let them move on and find the person that can give them all three.
If you choose love, choose to work on it, choose to give your all and choose to forgive! After all Love is ever forgiving. But, taking advantage is not love, right?
Thoughts?
Friday, January 21, 2011
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
THIS IS WHY YOU'RE FAT!
Ok... so you guys know that I am on a quest to lose 20lbs before July 1, my 30th birthday! woohooo! Because I love to eat, certain diets just will not work for me. I can't substiute any meals for bars, cereal, smoothies or anything of the such. I need sustenance! I am strong believer that if the weight comes off fast it will come back faster. That is why I am allow myself 6 months to lose the weight.
So a while a back I spoke with a personal trainer who recommended that i get a book by Jackie Warner, THIS IS WHY YOU'RE FAT! This book is a life changer! It show you how to eat without depriving yourself. The first two weeks of the diet you can eat whatever you want. Yeah, whatever you want...you just have to incorporate certain things. She calls the first 2 weeks Add to lose.
You add fat-burning foods such as eggs, veggies, fruits and whey protein and you continue to eat your fried chicken and cheap Chinese!:) The first time i did this i lost 6 pound, but due to Thanksgiving and Christmas I gained it all back +2. lol :(
The next phase is called "Clean Eating". "Eating Clean" means eating foods that burn fat, build lean muscle, balance your hormones and detoxes your body. In this portion you"Eat clean" for 5 days and eat what you want for 2 days! This is ideal for me. On the weekends i spend alot of time at Tim's parent house, there is sooo much temptation over there.
She also incorporate a great work out plan, but I have decided to do my own.
I doing cardio 2 days a week, weights 1 day and strength training 1 day. This process is not going to be easy, but I am all about making this happen!
I will up date you with pics. I will also keep you posted on my progress.
peace and blessing
So a while a back I spoke with a personal trainer who recommended that i get a book by Jackie Warner, THIS IS WHY YOU'RE FAT! This book is a life changer! It show you how to eat without depriving yourself. The first two weeks of the diet you can eat whatever you want. Yeah, whatever you want...you just have to incorporate certain things. She calls the first 2 weeks Add to lose.
You add fat-burning foods such as eggs, veggies, fruits and whey protein and you continue to eat your fried chicken and cheap Chinese!:) The first time i did this i lost 6 pound, but due to Thanksgiving and Christmas I gained it all back +2. lol :(
The next phase is called "Clean Eating". "Eating Clean" means eating foods that burn fat, build lean muscle, balance your hormones and detoxes your body. In this portion you"Eat clean" for 5 days and eat what you want for 2 days! This is ideal for me. On the weekends i spend alot of time at Tim's parent house, there is sooo much temptation over there.
She also incorporate a great work out plan, but I have decided to do my own.
I doing cardio 2 days a week, weights 1 day and strength training 1 day. This process is not going to be easy, but I am all about making this happen!
I will up date you with pics. I will also keep you posted on my progress.
peace and blessing
Monday, January 17, 2011
Happy MLK day!
Today is a day of pride. All American should feel a since of gratitude to Dr. King for his contributions to our country. I am proud to be an African American. It feels good to be apart of a lineage as such. As I reflect I remind myself of all the things that we have accomplished and over come. We have come from slavery to the White House... not only did we build the White House we now live in it. God has truly been good to us. Look at all of the talent we posses: Lee Archer, Rudolph Belisle, Adolpho Birch, Carmen DE Lavallade, John Johnson, Rosa Parks, Corretta Scott King and Dr. Martin Luther King Just to name a few. We should be proud of who we are. And we should realize that we need each other to get where we want to go! :)
Today am featuring a very Talented African American Artist in the Birmingham area,
Tyronne Goudy! If you are interest in him doing some work for you please let me know.
He is very reasonable!
Peace and blessings!
Friday, January 14, 2011
Growth like the trees!
The most difficult thing to do is to be honest with ones self about who we are. We often make excuses for ourselves. We say, "I am really not like that" or "I didn't mean it that way"... But we did and we are. The little things that we do that we don't want anyone to know about, or we will never share are the things that define our character. We should really take a look at those things and decide if we like ourselves. We often see fault in other, but make excuses for ourselves. We go to great lengths to cover up our short comings, while quickly calling others out. I challenge you before you call someone out to ask yourself if you do the same thing. :)
The love of my life has help me to see this terrible flaw in myself and I am grateful. Iron really does sharpen Iron.
We all want people to see the good in ourselves, but our concern should be how God sees us. It is written that "No one is good--except God alone. Luke 18:19. We must meditate day and night on his word to walk in his will and purpose!
Dealing with your core takes a loving heart and a sensitive spirit. But when you do, it is a beautiful thing to rid yourself of the ugliness!
keeping it in prospective.
The love of my life has help me to see this terrible flaw in myself and I am grateful. Iron really does sharpen Iron.
We all want people to see the good in ourselves, but our concern should be how God sees us. It is written that "No one is good--except God alone. Luke 18:19. We must meditate day and night on his word to walk in his will and purpose!
Dealing with your core takes a loving heart and a sensitive spirit. But when you do, it is a beautiful thing to rid yourself of the ugliness!
keeping it in prospective.
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
My Feelings are Valid!
My feelings are valid! Whether one perceives them to be petty, immature or childish, they are my feelings and I must listen to them in order to love me!
How often do you find yourself lying to yourself and others about how you feel? Saying that you feel one way and you know you feel another, because you don't want to come across petty, immature or childish? Whatever it is that we are feeling jealous, insecure or scared we must acknowledge our feelings in order to deal with them.
Jealousy is a surest way to rid ourrselves of something that we want. When we are jealous it is our subconscious mind letting us know that we are longing for something.
There are only two emotions love and fear. When jealousy presents itself recognize that it is nothing but the devil creating fear in our subconscious mind. If we allow ourselves to be jealous it will impede us from love.
It is very important to acknowledge all of our feelings and not beat ourselves up about them. Our feeling are not good or bad, but they are valid! Jealousy is simply reminding us that we are worthy of the best! :) When we acknowledge our feelings, good or bad, and remember how fabulous we are the jealousy, insecurity and fear will quickly dissolve!
Keep it in prospective!
Love ya
How often do you find yourself lying to yourself and others about how you feel? Saying that you feel one way and you know you feel another, because you don't want to come across petty, immature or childish? Whatever it is that we are feeling jealous, insecure or scared we must acknowledge our feelings in order to deal with them.
Jealousy is a surest way to rid ourrselves of something that we want. When we are jealous it is our subconscious mind letting us know that we are longing for something.
There are only two emotions love and fear. When jealousy presents itself recognize that it is nothing but the devil creating fear in our subconscious mind. If we allow ourselves to be jealous it will impede us from love.
It is very important to acknowledge all of our feelings and not beat ourselves up about them. Our feeling are not good or bad, but they are valid! Jealousy is simply reminding us that we are worthy of the best! :) When we acknowledge our feelings, good or bad, and remember how fabulous we are the jealousy, insecurity and fear will quickly dissolve!
Keep it in prospective!
Love ya
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Stop!
Why is it that we know what keeps us in bondage and continue to let those things hold us there?
we know the habits, behaviors and relationships that lead to destruction... so why do we continue to let those things impede us from progress? Why do we seem so powerless?
Could it be a lack of self worth, or maybe a lack of will power? I am really not sure... maybe a little of both.
I just want to remind you and myself that we are the only ones responsible for what goes on in our lives. Yes we can make excuse and blame others, however we are responsible for ourselves and actions.
peace and many blessings.
we know the habits, behaviors and relationships that lead to destruction... so why do we continue to let those things impede us from progress? Why do we seem so powerless?
Could it be a lack of self worth, or maybe a lack of will power? I am really not sure... maybe a little of both.
I just want to remind you and myself that we are the only ones responsible for what goes on in our lives. Yes we can make excuse and blame others, however we are responsible for ourselves and actions.
peace and many blessings.
1.1.11
Do you know how long I have waited for this day??? I am so excited to see my girls Melodie, Tasha, Kelly and maybe even JaNay! Tonight is going to be a good night! I am all about Black TV! I was so disappointed to see Girlfriends and The Game be canceled, but i am truly in debited to BET for bringing at least on of my favorites back!
My girls and I are planing a Game Night! I hope everyone can make it, but due to the weather I maybe watching it with Tim! But that is ok!
He is my Derwin and I love hime to death!
I can't wait to watch tonight!
It's The Game Baby!
Monday, January 10, 2011
Snow in Alabama!
It's a slushy day in Alabama! The entire state has shut down! lol :) I am loving it!
HAPPY SNOW DAY FOLKS! :)
Sunday, January 9, 2011
It's 2011 Hun's!
OMG! This is the year that I will turn the BIG 30! It is amazing how time flies. I remember being 9 and counting down the days until my 10th birthday and now I am knocking on 30's door! God is good! I am so excited about the things that God has in store for me this year. I think with every new year our hopes are reinvigorated! There is something about turning a year older that restore our faith in hope in being better people! Its a great feeling to know that God has given me another year to get closer to perfection.:)
So of course I have some new year resolutions... Like every other women over 25 I am committed to losing 20lbs this year. Lol I have also decided to dabble a little more in to my creative side. If you know me you know that I am a fashionista! I have a way of making a $20.00 fit look like it cost a $2000.00.
I truly think this is a talent that i was blessed with from God. I also plan to share with you a little of my fashion in site!
Today I am going to feature on of my newest finds. I am so obsessed with fashion.
It is a black Mulberry Bag from Target! Yay Target!
$1450 Mulberry.com $24.99 Target.com/Mulberry
So of course I have some new year resolutions... Like every other women over 25 I am committed to losing 20lbs this year. Lol I have also decided to dabble a little more in to my creative side. If you know me you know that I am a fashionista! I have a way of making a $20.00 fit look like it cost a $2000.00.
I truly think this is a talent that i was blessed with from God. I also plan to share with you a little of my fashion in site!
Today I am going to feature on of my newest finds. I am so obsessed with fashion.
It is a black Mulberry Bag from Target! Yay Target!
$1450 Mulberry.com $24.99 Target.com/Mulberry
$1450 - $24.99 = a fabulous money conscious fashionista
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