Set the Standard!

Have you ever noticed how you treat yourself? I often find myself rushing and not taking the time to enjoy me. When I am in the shower I am rushing through my delicate areas instead of taking my time with my precious body. When I eat I am often in a hurry not enjoying one of the things that I love the most. :) I should be more aware of how I treat myself because after all I set the standard as to how others treat me.

Yes, that is right you set the standard as to how others treat you. Treat yourself with passion and respect. Don’t judge yourself, don’t accuse and don’t rush! Let yourself finish your thoughts with out interruptions of negativity. We are often so negative when dealing with ourselves. We are truly our worst critics.

I will be transparent. I think that I am fat! I have gained some weight and it has truly taken a toll on my self-esteem. But I must realize that I am perfectly made in the likeness of HIM. And embrace all of my insecurities and do something about them.
When dealing with ones self we must be gentle, kind and understanding. We are flawed individuals and we must cut ourselves some slack. This is something I hardly ever do, never-the-less this is something I have become aware of. It has been said that knowing is half that battle, right?

I challenge you to at some points assess how you treat yourself. Do you rush in the shower? Do you take the time to nourish your body properly? Are you kind or are you critical? Are you supportive? These are all question that you should ask yourself, because if you aren’t taking the time to treat you right, why should anyone else?

Set the best example and be the change you want to see in others!

Happy MLK day!

Today is a day of pride. All American should feel a since of gratitude to Dr. King for his contributions to our country. I am proud to be an African American. It feels good to be apart of a lineage as such. As I reflect I remind myself of all the things that we have accomplished and over come. We have come from slavery to the White House... not only did we build the White House we now live in it. God has truly been good to us. Look at all of the talent we posses: Lee Archer, Rudolph Belisle, Adolpho Birch, Carmen DE Lavallade, John Johnson, Rosa Parks, Corretta Scott King and Dr. Martin Luther King Just to name a few. We should be proud of who we are. And we should realize that we need each other to get where we want to go! :)

Today am featuring a very Talented African American Artist in the Birmingham area,
Tyronne Goudy! If you are interest in him doing some work for you please let me know.
He is very reasonable!

Peace and blessings!

Growth like the trees!

The most difficult thing to do is to be honest with ones self about who we are. We often make excuses for ourselves. We say, "I am really not like that" or "I didn't mean it that way"... But we did and we are. The little things that we do that we don't want anyone to know about, or we will never share are the things that define our character. We should really take a look at those things and decide if we like ourselves. We often see fault in other, but make excuses for ourselves. We go to great lengths to cover up our short comings, while quickly calling others out. I challenge you before you call someone out to ask yourself if you do the same thing. :)
The love of my life has help me to see this terrible flaw in myself and I am grateful. Iron really does sharpen Iron.

We all want people to see the good in ourselves, but our concern should be how God sees us. It is written that "No one is good--except God alone. Luke 18:19. We must meditate day and night on his word to walk in his will and purpose!

Dealing with your core takes a loving heart and a sensitive spirit. But when you do, it is a beautiful thing to rid yourself of the ugliness!
keeping it in prospective.

Too much is given much is required! Luke 12:48

Have you ever wonder why people hold you to a higher standard? Do you ever feel like some people can get away with murder and you can’t get away with telling a little white lie?  The simple answer to this is you are a child of God and he has called to a higher standard. You are Magnificent and He wants what is best for you! There are just certain things that we can’t do. You see we see ourselves like everyone else, but we must remember that we are not like everyone else. We are Kings and Queens dwelling on this earth.

For example think if President Obama was on facebook posting how drunk he was at the platinum last night. We would be ashamed to say we voted for him as our president because we hold him to a higher standard. That is the same standard that we as children of God should hold ourselves and friends to. Unfortunately we don’t see ourselves as being on the same level as President Obama. We see ourselves as everyone else!

I know that I have been wrong so many times, but I continue to love and forgive.
I ask myself often why do I forgive people, but I guess it is the God in me.
I realize that I am a Christian and God has shown me grace and mercy and therefore I have to do the same. God doesn’t keep record of my wrongs so who am I to keep record of anyone else’s. God has blessed me and you. He gives us chance after chance so what right do we have to not give a second chance!


Peace and blessings!

Spring cleaning

Spring Cleaning!


I have spent much of my life focused on things that have no value such as; how others view me and my actions. I have learned that some people are just unhappy and love to criticize and scrutinize others. I was talking to a good friend of mine and she said; she was talking to someone about my spirituality and the person couldn't believe that I was spiritual. The amazing thing about this person is we have never held a conversation. It kills me how people like to judge! Just because I am well dressed and like nice things that doesn’t mean that I am not a Christian

I know I have not lived a perfect life, but who has?!?! I think it is important to concern yourself with other, but never at the expense of your happiness and sanity.
So, today I am throwing out all negativity, including negative people! Proverbs 22: 24-25 says, 'Don't make friends with Hot tempered men, do not associate with one who is easily angered, or you will learn his ways and get yourself ensnared. If you are around negativity it is so easy to be consumed with it. So it’s in our best interest to let miserable people be!

I am surrounding myself with positive people who love life and uplifting. I challenge you to do the same.