Love is a choice!
One of the biggest misconception in relationships is that they should be 50/50…Uhh…NO! They should be 100/100. Think about if you are only giving 50% effort in your relationship something is lacking. And your mate is unfulfilled. Now I will be the first to say that no one is perfect… not even I! we all can stand to improve on something.
When in a relationship you should ask yourself 3 question:
Do you love each other?
Are you committed to each other?
Are you will to put in the time and energy to strengthen the love and commitment?
If you answer no to any of these questions, you shouldn't’ waste the other parties time. Let them move on and find the person that can give them all three.
If you choose love, choose to work on it, choose to give your all and choose to forgive! After all Love is ever forgiving. But, taking advantage is not love, right?
Thoughts?
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Friday, January 21, 2011
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
My Feelings are Valid!
My feelings are valid! Whether one perceives them to be petty, immature or childish, they are my feelings and I must listen to them in order to love me!
How often do you find yourself lying to yourself and others about how you feel? Saying that you feel one way and you know you feel another, because you don't want to come across petty, immature or childish? Whatever it is that we are feeling jealous, insecure or scared we must acknowledge our feelings in order to deal with them.
Jealousy is a surest way to rid ourrselves of something that we want. When we are jealous it is our subconscious mind letting us know that we are longing for something.
There are only two emotions love and fear. When jealousy presents itself recognize that it is nothing but the devil creating fear in our subconscious mind. If we allow ourselves to be jealous it will impede us from love.
It is very important to acknowledge all of our feelings and not beat ourselves up about them. Our feeling are not good or bad, but they are valid! Jealousy is simply reminding us that we are worthy of the best! :) When we acknowledge our feelings, good or bad, and remember how fabulous we are the jealousy, insecurity and fear will quickly dissolve!
Keep it in prospective!
Love ya
How often do you find yourself lying to yourself and others about how you feel? Saying that you feel one way and you know you feel another, because you don't want to come across petty, immature or childish? Whatever it is that we are feeling jealous, insecure or scared we must acknowledge our feelings in order to deal with them.
Jealousy is a surest way to rid ourrselves of something that we want. When we are jealous it is our subconscious mind letting us know that we are longing for something.
There are only two emotions love and fear. When jealousy presents itself recognize that it is nothing but the devil creating fear in our subconscious mind. If we allow ourselves to be jealous it will impede us from love.
It is very important to acknowledge all of our feelings and not beat ourselves up about them. Our feeling are not good or bad, but they are valid! Jealousy is simply reminding us that we are worthy of the best! :) When we acknowledge our feelings, good or bad, and remember how fabulous we are the jealousy, insecurity and fear will quickly dissolve!
Keep it in prospective!
Love ya
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Last day being 27
Today is June 30, 2009, My last day being 27. As I reflect over my life I realize how blessed I truly am, God has been gracious to me over and over! I am so not deserving of all of my blessings! I have spent so much of my life trying to please others wanting people to judge me on my on merit instead of where I come from and my parents!
But I realize that I can no longer be ashamed of who I am or where I come from, because those things are the things that make me who I am. I know that my God’s grace is sufficient for me, for his power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
I have grown so much over the years. I have had some good times and some bad times! I have had my heart broken and I have done my fair share of heart breaking. I was talking to my BFF (Constance) this morning about her sister’s wedding and if you know me, you know that I am a hopeless romantic. I was all excited as if it was my wedding and she could sense it in my voice. She said, “Chasiti, you still believe in love and you are still hopeful.” I replied “Yes”, and we continued to talk like normal.
That conversation has had me going since 7 this morning. I am not bitter anymore. I am ready for love; but not at the cost of whom I am. See, I have dated my fair share of guys and tried to change who I was to fit them. If he wanted someone domesticated, I learned to cook; if he was into partying, I became a party animal, all for My man! But in trying to be what my man wanted I forgot about the things that were important to me. I did things that just weren’t Chasiti. Not saying that the things I did were bad, but they were not done because of my own conviction, they were done to please someone else! I have learned that you can’t make anyone want you and I will not try any longer! You see, I am perfectly made in the likeness of Jesus! I am going to live my life that way. I know there is always room for improvement and trust that I am working on me daily. But, I dare my self esteem issues to subject me to settle for anything less than I deserve. The bible says that a man should love is wife like Christ loves the church; not when he feels like or when its convenient or when no one else is looking! I am a Jewel with a lot to offer!
And yes, I have kissed a few frogs, but I know the next man I Kiss will be my prince!!!
I am single with no plus one and I cool with it!!!!
But I realize that I can no longer be ashamed of who I am or where I come from, because those things are the things that make me who I am. I know that my God’s grace is sufficient for me, for his power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
I have grown so much over the years. I have had some good times and some bad times! I have had my heart broken and I have done my fair share of heart breaking. I was talking to my BFF (Constance) this morning about her sister’s wedding and if you know me, you know that I am a hopeless romantic. I was all excited as if it was my wedding and she could sense it in my voice. She said, “Chasiti, you still believe in love and you are still hopeful.” I replied “Yes”, and we continued to talk like normal.
That conversation has had me going since 7 this morning. I am not bitter anymore. I am ready for love; but not at the cost of whom I am. See, I have dated my fair share of guys and tried to change who I was to fit them. If he wanted someone domesticated, I learned to cook; if he was into partying, I became a party animal, all for My man! But in trying to be what my man wanted I forgot about the things that were important to me. I did things that just weren’t Chasiti. Not saying that the things I did were bad, but they were not done because of my own conviction, they were done to please someone else! I have learned that you can’t make anyone want you and I will not try any longer! You see, I am perfectly made in the likeness of Jesus! I am going to live my life that way. I know there is always room for improvement and trust that I am working on me daily. But, I dare my self esteem issues to subject me to settle for anything less than I deserve. The bible says that a man should love is wife like Christ loves the church; not when he feels like or when its convenient or when no one else is looking! I am a Jewel with a lot to offer!
And yes, I have kissed a few frogs, but I know the next man I Kiss will be my prince!!!
I am single with no plus one and I cool with it!!!!
Friday, March 6, 2009
HIM!
Have you seen Him!?!
God fearing
good with children
and small animals
small nose
Light to medium brown skin
Over 6 feet tall
in shape
Good Job...making good money
college degree
intelligent
patient
loving
romantic
who loves me...and thinks very highly of me
Good looking
witty
doesn't like to party often ,but know how to have a good time!
If you know this man please tell him to contact me ASAP!
I have been waiting my entire life for him!
Lord this is my list of the qualities that i want in a man! "these are the desire of my heart"!
God fearing
good with children
and small animals
small nose
Light to medium brown skin
Over 6 feet tall
in shape
Good Job...making good money
college degree
intelligent
patient
loving
romantic
who loves me...and thinks very highly of me
Good looking
witty
doesn't like to party often ,but know how to have a good time!
If you know this man please tell him to contact me ASAP!
I have been waiting my entire life for him!
Lord this is my list of the qualities that i want in a man! "these are the desire of my heart"!
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